Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide To Men, Sex, And Love's Deepest Bliss

By David Deida

Every girl is aware the fairy story: locate the precise guy, provide him what he want and desires, and he will love you eternally. but if the parable you have been requested to think fails to deliver—when you experience you have been settling for a lot below you recognize on your center is possible—how do you allure and continue a guy in a position to assembly what you so much passionately yearn for?

In Dear Lover, David Deida explores each point of the female perform of religious intimacy, from sexuality and lovemaking to relations and occupation to feelings, belief, and dedication. Written as a suite of letters from a guy to his expensive lover, this is this across the world acclaimed writer's invitation to perform love as a dwelling artwork, as you discover:

  • Why your guy is usually your choice—and the best way to choose the guy of deep integrity who will fulfill the desires of your physique, center, and spirit
  • “Sexual essence” and the 3 levels of loving:  the best way to comprehend your fluctuating skill to adventure divine reference to another
  • Knowing while to finish a dating and the way to accommodate the “him-shaped void” your absent guy leaves behind
  • Daily workouts that can assist you and your associate circulation from separation to openness in two-bodies devotional trust

eventually, what each girl wishes it to provide and obtain love fully.  no matter if you’re partnered or on my own, Dear Lover reveals that “your love is identical love that years to open at everybody’s heart.  you'll allure and encourage a guy as prepared and ready to open as you are.  consistent craving is the decision to open and provides your self to all as love’s offering.”
1.  you're Love
2 . Chocolate Love
three. craving Is the major to Love
four. The present of constructing Love
five. religious Sexiness
6.  Orgasmic Love
7.  Love and Fear
8.  Your Sexual Essence
9.  Your precise center and Its Shells
10.  delivering or Betraying Your Heart
11.  The Two-Bodied Play of Love
12.  Loving higher Than Fear
13.  Trusting Your guy to Open You
14.  You allure Your Reciprocal
15.  Why males carry Back
16.  Your strength of Attraction
17.  Your guy is Your Choice
18.  Expressing excitement and Hurt
19.  Masculine Insensitivity
20.  tips to remain Open
21.  starting past an Impasse
22.  finishing Relationships and the Him-Shaped Void
23.  3 levels of Loving
24. Love is a residing Art
25.   exhibiting Your Heart’s gentle in Public
26.  opting for Abuse and Refusing Love
27.  eager to Be Opened
28.  A precis of Trusting and Opening
29.  Goodbye


pricey Reader,
I supply the subsequent chapters to you as though you have been my lover.  even supposing you'll be unmarried or married, I supply those phrases to you as i might do my beloved.  We could by no means meet, yet i would like to offer you the chance to suppose your middle via mine.
For years, i've got taught workshops all over the world, starting with men and women whereas they proportion their private heart’s desires.  it sort of feels we frequently come to grasp ourselves such a lot deeply throughout the middle of somebody who loves us, who's keen to open and spot us as we really are, who's keen to pay attention and consider our heart’s yearning.
to offer and obtain love fully—this is our heart’s precise hope, yours and mine. The craving you're feeling on your middle is identical craving that everybody feels.  by means of feeling your heart’s craving via 9, i'm hoping you are going to come to understand your self extra deeply during the many hearts that experience opened jointly in belief and allowed those phrases to emerge.
All hearts are looking to open to God, or the boundless movement of divine love.  you could or is probably not a spiritual individual, and nonetheless your middle years to open with no bounds, to be noticeable and to be provided with no limits.  this can be what I suggest through “open to God”—to open and suppose every thing and everyone’s middle as a divine expression of love.

Praise for Dear Lover

“In the world of sacred intimacy, David Deida is keeping a lightning bolt.  He sheds an fantastic light.”
—Marianne Williamson, Author of A Woman’s Worth
“As a lady, I’ve by no means felt so understood and validated.  eventually, a transparent and awesome advisor to unraveling the secret of relationships.”
—Marci Shimoff, Co-author of the hot York occasions bestseller Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul
“I believe that Deida has reached a brand new point of poetic genius in his writing, and his realizing of female psychology astounds me.”
—Miranda Shaw, PhD.  writer of Passionate Enlightenment:  ladies in Tantric Buddhism
“We all flavor God, style Goddess, style natural spirit in these moments of sexual rapture, and clever women and men have continually used that rapture to bare Spirit’s innermost secrets.  David Deida is the sort of clever one.”
—Ken Wilber, Author of Grace and Grit

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